In life you meet two kinds of people. The kind that makes you want to do everything in your power not to become like them. And the kind that, when you’re with them, you catch yourself looking at them, thinking – How did you get this great?
In my experience, the first example is (sadly) the one that you will undoubtedly come across the most in the early stages of your life. Because people suck, and … that’s reality. Oh, who am I talking about? You know them already ….
The con artist
The emotionally tense and aggressive
And then there’s the most unfavourable character-type: It’s the one that makes you want to go to bed and forget the world, because clearly – according to them – trying to become “someone” will only fail you if you don’t have the right education, come from the right family, have enough money etc. I call them the snakes.
And I’ve been there. I’ve been the one sitting opposite someone who has looked straight into my eyes and directly told me: You won’t be able to do anything if you don’t have academic papers showing you’re worth it.
You know what? I have one thing to say to this person. And that is … (drum-roll) ….
Look around you.
Look at Emma Stone. Not only did she miss college. She missed High School too. People say that “She put all her eggs in one basket” when she decided to pursue her new upcoming movie instead of graduating her senior year. They might also say: “Well, she benefitted from that. But .. not everyone does. You should have a plan B.” Well, why would you? If you already have a plan A?
What about the safety-net?
In a TV-interview, Will Smith stated: “Theres no reason to have a plan B, because it distracts from plan A.”
Fine. He can say that, right? He’s famous. He got the opportunity to become an actor. But what about us poor, uneducated, commonplace people? We have to work to have bread on the table. We can’t connect with the right people, because we’ll never get invited to those high-profile parties.
This is the kind of talk you’ve been receiving for quite some time now, am I right? And isn’t it becoming tiring? Because .. you can’t really argue against these people either. They might get verbally aggressive or emotional and in the end they might even ramble on about their economical crisis. And that’s when you realise that you should just keep your mouth shut – because if you say anything, anything at all – you might potentially push a button and it could be the wrong thing. So you agree with them. You cheer your drinks and you go on with your life, working for a boss whilst continually hearing the voices of these people saying: “You can never do it.” or “If you do it, it’s going to be very, very hard.”
The one thing you have to do, and trust me on this when I tell you that you can’t reach that pot of gold without having done THIS first:
Let go off the safety-net.
If you do that, you will for sure have come one step further away from being mediocre.
Now, lets take a look at the people you DO want to become. Meeting them is rare, but when it happens, you just …. know. I’m talking about:
The hyperactive business-man
The entrepreneur who started from scratch
The son/daughter of parents who run their own companies
The friend that always connects you with people who work with what YOU love
The person who’s obsessed with personal achievements
Trust me: These people don’t care about how many bachelors you have or who you know and/or dont know. They just want to be the witnesses of someone going from zero to a hundred. And what’s greater than that? Theres no fun in already having the name or the money or the education. The road is too short. Not rocky enough and not nearly as exciting.
This might be a very spontaneous, straight-to-the-point article, but today I just felt like I had to write about it, because negative people are becoming a poisonous epidemic which keeps on growing and following us wherever we go. It might not sound believable, but I’ve met a ton of people lately who have given me a hard time with the “you can never do it”- talk and on the other side – I’ve met more and more people who have willingly motivated me and given me unique chances to go higher. But the set-backs are still there. I still come across snakes who tell me I will go nowhere because I’m not educated enough. And if it’s happening to me, its happening to you too. That’s why its important to get it out there:
Be a little bit more careful with who you hang around with. Only look to the people who have reached actual success, and you’ll come to realise that these people gave it all. They put all their eggs into one basket. And they certainly closed their ears when their friends put them down with negative talk.
See you on the other side.
Aftur S. Nerdrum