The 7 most romantic and unique gift ideas for your significant other

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WARNING: These are very romantic, couple-like presents — maybe you and your bf/gf are not there yet ….? 

But if you are … 


  1. The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman 

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Why: Read this book together, and you’ll be guaranteed with amazing growth in your relationship! Falling in love is easy. Staying in love—that’s the challenge! How can you keep your relationship fresh and growing amid the demands, conflicts, and just plain boredom of everyday life? THIS BOOK has the answers. Figure out each other’s different love-languages, and you are gold. No more silly misunderstandings and misinterpretations anymore! Tempting …? 

Get it HERE

 

2. The Quiz Book For Couples by Kim Chapman 

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Why: Similarly to the book mentioned above, this gift can also help spark the early flame of your relationship – by taking some quality time out and doing something completely new and out of your comfort zone – like taking a quiz together. This book is broken down into sections with questions for the different aspects of your relationship. Each person answers the questions individually and then compares his/her answers to the other person. The person with the most correct answers wins that section and gets to chose from a reward given by the other person – and this reward can be anything! Use your imagination … 

Get it HERE

 

3. Name A Star – Lovers Edition

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Why: (ALERT- THIS ONE IS VERY ROMANTIC!) You and your special loved one can be together forever in the midnight sky! Yes, It’s true. I’m not kidding. You can actually get two stars named after you + they can be next to each other as a sign of your love and appreciation …? 

Get it HERE

 

4. Letters to a Young Poet by Rainer Maria Rilke 

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Why: This one is not as romantic as the previous ones – HOWEVER – it’s filled with great advice on how to live one’s life, improve on weaknesses and strengthen ones qualities. And since relationships are all about self-growth and noticing each other’s weak spots, this book is just PERFECT for both parties! You can read it together at night, underline important quotes and have discussions about it afterward. This is (at least for me) the very best thing about being a couple with someone! Namely; The mental connection. 

Get it: HERE

 

5. “open-when-letters” 

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How: (I also wrote about this gift idea in “The 7 best gift ideas for mothers” – HERE)

““Open-when-letters” is very easy and very fun to make. You just buy a bunch of little envelopes and cards, write a little message on them and put them in a box. Your significant other is not supposed to open them all, only if they’re feeling a certain way, or on a special day (depending on what it says on the envelope). Inside you can write whatever you like – use your imagination and put your whole heart into this project. (WARNING: This can turn out very emotional! You MIGHT cry or make your significant other cry …just saying.) Your message on each one is up to you, but here are some examples to make the process a little bit easier:

  • Open when you’re feeling happy 
  • Open when you’re sad
  • Open when you feel rejected 
  • Open when you feel lonely 
  • Open on your birthday 
  • Open when we’ve just had a fight
  • Open when you’re unable to resolve an inner conflict 
  • Open when you’re sick 
  • Open when you’re feeling hopeful about the future 
  • Open when you want to take a walk along memory lane 
  • Open when you’re losing faith 
  • Open on Christmas Eve 
  • Open on New Years 

And so on and so on … 

 

6. A gift-card from your local cinema  

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Why: If you’re a couple that likes to watch a lot of movies, and maybe ESPECIALLY go to the cinema together, this gift is perfect for your significant other! Throw in some extra money on that gift card, so that you can enjoy watching up to 5-6 movies at any given time. Your partner will love this! Plus – it’s a great excuse for you two to spend more quality time out with each other:) 

 

7. A commissioned drawing or portrait 

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Why: If you feel like being extra unique and extra sporadic this year, commissioning a portrait of your significant other is the best gift! It will make them feel special, valued and appreciated. It will also be a gift that will bring sentimental value into your home♥ But remember to choose a clever painter/drawer, and don’t do it unless your partner is into these creative, artsy things as well! 


 

Ok, that’s it for today’s post! I hope you liked this little list. Do tell me if you’d like more of these:) 

 

Love, 

Aftur S. Nerdrum 

Aftur’s Christmas Calendar: 17th of December

ADRIENE MISHLER 

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“There’s no cheating in yoga, you make it your own”

She is the woman behind the YouTube channel; “Yoga With Adriene” – a channel that’s loved and cherished every day across the globe – from people who suffer mentally, physically or just want to get more fit. From her videos, you’ll get free yoga-lessons, instructions, uplifting words during the process and you EVEN get to do different yoga-exercises depending on your mood that day! How great is that? She has yoga for hangovers, yoga if you’re feeling sick, yoga for stress and anxiety, yoga for mornings, yoga for evenings, yoga for trips, yoga for better motivation and focus, yoga for uncertainty and SO SO many more! I found her videos by coincidence on the 1st of January, the beginning of 2018 – and since then, I have never stopped doing yoga for a single day. I was very hesitant to this exercise before. I thought it was weird and hippie and belonged to a certain kind of group. But then I found Adriene’s videos and it all changed! I am a new person because of her, and because of her, I am also more focused, more motivated, inspired and confident. You should really truly try out some of her exercises. It will change your life for the better. Thank you @adrienelouise  for this lifelong journey that you have taken me on. 

 

Love, 

Aftur S. Nerdrum 

Aftur’s Christmas Calendar: 16th of December

JANE AUSTEN 

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“A lady’s imagination is very rapid; it jumps from admiration to love, from love to matrimony in a moment.”

It’s Jane Austen’s Birthday today and in her name, I will dedicate this day to talking a little bit about how much I love this queen. She is an English novelist known primarily for her six major novels (which have also turned into motion pictures);

•Sense and Sensibility

•Pride and Prejudice

•Mansfield Park

•Emma

•Northanger Abbey

•Persuasion 

She was born on this day, on the English country-side in 1775. Her books are adored all over the world, her stories are constantly being recaptured by clever directors and screenplay writers, and young girls are seeking comfort in her stories – relating to her characters and drawing similarities to their own life experiences. She was the mother of all female writers who became known in the 19th century, including the Brontë sisters, George Sand, Elizabeth Gaskell and many more! She introduced the archetypical Alfa-male through her character; Mr. Darcy, whose name is still being mentioned as a casual reference across the globe, even today! Words cannot express how much I’ve enjoyed her books and the films based on them. They were the ones that guided me throughout my whole childhood and made me to who I am today. Thank you, Jane Austen, for inspiring, uplifting and motivating so many other girls today. If you only knew then, how much of an important figure you’d be in the 21st century! You are our heroine.

Love, 

Aftur S. Nerdrum 

Aftur’s Christmas Calendar: 15th of December

SIMONE DE BEAUVOIR 

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“She was ready to deny the existence of space and time rather than admit that love might not be eternal.”

I have only read one book of her yet – still I have to say that she has become my role model in literature. Her craft is so well made – the way she expresses her character’s feelings through thoughts, speech, and action – the way she narrates the smallest things in life and makes them seem like they’re EVERYTHING in that one moment. Her writing is passionate, intellectual, dramatic, poetic, thought-provoking and so much more. Read her book called “When the things of the spirit comes first”. You will not regret it.

BUY THE BOOK HERE

Love, 

Aftur S. Nerdrum 

Aftur’s Christmas Calendar: 14th of December

CHARLIE HOUPERT – THE MAN BEHIND CHARISMA ON COMMAND 

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“That’s what high energy does.  It amplifies everything.  Speak louder, gesticulate more, feel more alive than your audience.  That will amplify your message.”

He is the creator of the successful YouTube channel; “Charisma on Command”. His videos are not only clear, precise and easy to follow. They’re filled with knowledge about:


  1. Persuasion
  2. How to win arguments
  3. How to gain more social intelligence
  4. how to command respect without being a jerk 

… and MUCH MUCH more. Honestly, I love his videos. (Next to Jordan Peterson’s of course) And if you’re like me — super interested in motivational videos and you just can’t get enough of them —- watch CHARISMA ON COMMAND. You will NOT be disappointed.

 

Love, 

Aftur S. Nerdrum 

Aftur’s Christmas Calendar: 13th of December

JENNA RICHARDS 

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“My life has basically been divided into two parts; Life before April 2nd, 2016 and life after that dreadful day.”

Here is a woman whose bravery and undeniable courage should not be doubted for one second. What happened to her was brutal, but her way of recovery was even more shocking. On April 2nd, 2016 she lost her husband (the father of her 8 months old son) due to an overdose of pills. The situation was tragic, she had no job, she had lost the love of her life and there was no one there to support her and her son. Regardless of this, she kept her head held high, rose up from the sadness, started her own company, selling baby-clothes (which is now a very successful store) and put up an Instagram-page (@jackandjennablog ) to help other widowed mothers by sharing her story and how she coped with it. Through pictures and beautiful words, she is now shedding light onto the world and putting the most important message out there: That you never know what could happen today or tomorrow, so make the best out of every second, cherish every laughter and smile and know that if something does happen, it is not the end of the world. It is never too late to start a new chapter.✨ A widowed mother running her own store EVEN after a tragedy like this – THAT is something I call a STRONG WOMAN. So thank you @jackandjennablog for making me appreciate more and for making me realize how much courage there is within all of us. We just don’t know it yet … 

Her Instagram page → HERE

Her online shop → HERE

Love, 

Aftur S. Nerdrum 

Aftur’s Christmas Calendar: 12th of December

ALAIN DE BOTTON 

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“One of the best protections against disappointment is to have a lot going on.”

He is the founder of the highly appreciated YouTube channel; “THE SCHOOL OF LIFE”. He is also a successfully published philosopher, author, and screenplay writer. Whenever I feel like updating myself on Aristoteles’s virtues, or Plato’s Cave-allegory, I turn to one of his videos on YouTube. He knows so much about each one of hem, and he’s definitely the one to turn to if you’re searching for some content for “philosophy for beginners”. My very first introduction to this man, was when I watched his video on “why you will marry the wrong person”. The title was profoundly shocking and unconventional in every aspect. But his thoughts on this are so valid, and you’ll see things from an entirely different and new perspective – something that’s crucial for human development.

Love,

Aftur S. Nerdrum 

The 7 best Holiday gifts for fathers

  1. 12 Rules For Life by Jordan Peterson 

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Why: Fathers love self-help books; Especially ones which focus on self-improvement and the lives surrounding men in the 21st Century. Plenty of men are becoming huge fans of this author today, and for good reasons. Therefore, he would love this gift (if he doesn’t already have it!) 

Get it HERE

 

2. Baratza Encore Conical Burr Coffee Grinder

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Why: If your dad is one of those coffee-lovers, why not give him the opportunity of making real coffee out of whole beans? It will put a warm, delicious spark on his mornings, and he’ll definitely feel like he’s drinking espresso in one of Italy’s fines cafés! 

Get it HERE

 

3.Crosley Radio – Nomad Turntable

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Why: What can be better than making your dad go way back to the 70s and 80s when CDs were bigger, sounds more authentic and the aesthetics of a music-player, much much cooler? I’m pleased to present you this practical, analog music-player from Nordstrøm. 

Get it HERE

 

4. The Prince by Niccolò Machiavelli 

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Why: This book is a 16th-century political treatise written by an Italian diplomat and political theorist. In short, it’s an all-encompassing understanding of men in power, and the common traits, motives, and struggles which have characterized leaders from Roman emperors to modern-day presidents. You can find similarities from then to now, and you analyze the behavior of powerful people more closely, as you get a further understanding of what it is all about, by reading his book.

I MEAN … WHAT is better than giving your dad a book written by Machiavelli for Christmas? This philosopher is all about how to get ahead in life and how to use simple tricks in order to succeed among the crowds of people who want to get somewhere too. His philosophy can easily resonate with psychopaths, however – it is equally a good read for normal people who don’t necessarily take his words to the heart, but rather choose to use them as simple guidelines for their work-place. GREAT GIFT INDEED! 

Get it: HERE

 

5. The Antichrist by Friedrich Nietzsche

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Why: Yet another philosophy-book! Yay! Your father will be thrilled if you give him both this and The Prince (because men love philosophy more than anything else). This one has obvious reasons. It’s written by Friedrich Nietzsche; The most pessimistic, existentialistic german philosopher out there … his masculine theories resonated a lot with Jordan Peterson’s, and it’s actually mentioned in “12 Rules For Life” that you should read a certain amount of books, including “Antichrist” by Nietzsche. 

Get it: HERE

 

6. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey 

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Why: Again, for obvious reasons; This book has transformed the lives of Presidents, CEOs, educators, and parents – in all, millions of people of all ages around the globe. What would be more perfect to give your dad?  

Get it: HERE

 

7. My 66-Day Challenge Habit Tracker & Goal Planner: A Daily Journal to Help You Track Your Habits and Achieve Your Dream Life

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Why: A book which is all about self-improvement! This is a perfect gift for your dad, seeing that he will be eager to start on a blank page in the new year – by changing ugly habits and inviting good and fulfilling ones into his every-day routine.

Get it: HERE

 

That’s it, you guys. Hope you liked my list, and may your fathers be happy with their books this Christmas♥ 

 

Love, 

Aftur S. Nerdrum 

Aftur’s Christmas Calendar: 11th of December

PHIL PARKER 

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“In order to make sense of the world, we continually distort reality. If we didn’t we would be completely overwhelmed by the amount of information hurling towards us at any one time. This is a skill that we learn in order to keep things simple for us and we do this by filtering for certain information that is important, this then becomes our focus and we ignore the rest.”

Many of you might not have heard of him before (he’s highly underrated by the media in my opinion) but he’s the man who started “The Lighting Process” – a program which enables people around the globe to recover from whatever it is that they’re going through at the moment. He began his journey with one simple belief; that anything is possible. So in the 1990s, when he was asked to find a new way to help people who were incredibly stuck with their health issues, he eagerly started his research into how we might use the mind-body connection effectively. Because those two functions share a very strong bond; if you struggle with anything physically, you’ll eventually start seeing negative changes mentally and vise versa. The saying goes; “It’s okay to not be okay” – which is very true. But it is even more crucial that you; the patient or you; the family member take this issue seriously – regardless of whether the patient is going through something physical or mental. I truly believe that our hero, Mr. Phil Parker has contributed to the change that we’re seeing today. I am noticing it everywhere I turn: More and more people are slowly becoming aware of the stigmas that we’ve carried with us concerning mental diseases – and more and more people are trying to break them open. Medical facilities are opening their eyes to a new world where all of the factors combined could be taken notice of – not just the rational, text-book answers that (unfortunately) only focus on the physical aspect of things. Phil Parker invites you into a world where there are options, not just the typical “you win or you die” mentality. “ It’s so so easy for us human beings to forget about one thing; “It is never too late to be what you might have been.” Do yourself a favor today: watch his videos on Ted talk or go through his website. There are things he’s got to tell you which you never even thought about before. Perhaps TODAY could be the day that you change someone’s life for the better? Perhaps TODAY could be the day that you change YOUR life? If so, what are you waiting for? If Phil Parker was able to spread his words as far as he has … why wouldn’t you?

 

Love, 

Aftur S. Nerdrum 

Aftur’s Christmas Calendar: 10th of December

KAZUO ISHIGURO 

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“We took away your art because we thought it would reveal your souls. Or to put it more finely, we did it to prove you had souls at all”

I found this author when I was about 14 and I truly, completely fell in love with his stories. His book; “Never Let Me Go” bore a cheesy title, but the plot, however – was something I had never in my life laid eyes on before. His other book; “The remains of the day” was also breathtaking but in an entirely different way. See, this author has a strange way of making stories that have no relation to each other at all. Both books are so different – but with an equal amount of true, unique quality-writing. The platonic, sensitive and pure love between Kathy and Tommy (in Never Let Me Go) is by far one of the most none-superficial and real descriptions of a love I have ever read. Truly, this is an author to explore – as he sets you in a different mood and challenges your emotions to the core! He’s human, he’s funny and he’s a genius at studying the psychology behind the relations between people. Definitely worth a read. (ps: If you’ve decided to dive into it, I would advice you to begin reading “Never Let Me Go”) 

(Trailer of the movie adaptation which they did on his book, “Never Let Me Go”) 

Love, 

Aftur S. Nerdrum